Is Al-Anon For You?

Is Al-Anon for you?
Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close. 

The following questions are designed to help you decide  whether or not you need Al-Anon:

Adapted from: Are You Troubled By Someone’s Drinking—Al-Anon Is For You! (S-17).

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  • Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
  • Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
  • Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
  • Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
  • Do you blame the drinker’s behavior on his or her companions?
  • Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
  • Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you”?
  • Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
  • Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
  • Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
  • Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
  • Do you search for hidden alcohol?
  • Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
  • Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
  • Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to in order to control the drinker?
  • Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
  • Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
  • Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?
  • Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?